I have a partner who thankfully chooses to be "a little deaf".
Ruth Bader Ginsburg's mother-in-law gave her a piece of advice on her wedding day, "In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf." Ginsburg applied it to her job too, "I have employed it as well in every workplace, including the Supreme Court. When a thoughtless or unkind word is spoken, best tune out. Reacting in anger or annoyance will not advance one's ability to persuade."
Actively allowing others' reactionary words to fall on deaf ears is not a trait that has been ingrained in me. Fortunately I have a partner who understands the value of this characteristic. When I become overwhelmed or speak from fear, Stephen Mullins' "deafness" has taught me to listen more. Thank you!
Selective deafness has it's benefits as does being a little afraid. It's when one acts out of this fear they tend to make poor decisions and aren't bringing their "best" self to the table. You are an incredible partner who confronts your fears daily and continually strives to live a life of authenticity...I couldn't be more proud.
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